I’m at a point in my life where I can finally stand on my own two feet. Not only can I afford to live alone, I can provide for myself the way that I want because I’ve worked really hard to be in a position to do so. As a result, I expect the man that I date to have it together too. If I’m going to date a guy, having his own place is a must.
1. IT DEMONSTRATES HIS INDEPENDENCE. I’m super independent. I earn my own money and pay my own bills and I expect the same in a partner. A man with his own place shows me that he gets that vibe and it’s a huge turn on. It tells me that we share that really important quality of self-sufficiency and it makes me immediately interested in him.
2. I NEED TO KNOW HE’S FINANCIALLY SMART. Many people live at home or with a roommate until they save or make enough money to get their own place because of the high cost of living in many cities. I understand why people do this but I prefer to be with a guy who’s already at that place in his life because I am. Financial stability is something that I’ve worked hard to achieve and complete financial independence is one of my greatest ongoing objectives. Now that I’m here, I want to be with a guy who’s on the same page. As someone who’s been in a relationship with a broke guy, I don’t want to risk dealing with jealousy and inferiority complexes just because I’m financially stable and he’s not.
3. IF HE HAS HIS OWN PLACE, HE’S MORE LIKELY TO BE READY FOR A RELATIONSHIP. A guy who lives in a frat house or with a roommate may not be in a place emotionally to share his physical life or his space with a partner in a serious way because he’s already sharing it with someone else. If he has roommates, maybe his priorities are getting money and living the single/casual dating life rather than getting into a serious relationship. That’s just not for me.
4. IF HE HAS HIS OWN PLACE, I’LL KNOW HE’S PAST THE COLLEGE MENTALITY. The frat houses I encountered in college have left me revolted at the sight of a group of men that live together. In my opinion, there are few things more annoying than a bunch of dudes who live together in a dirty, sloppy, musty, man-smell-infused home with game consoles and big screen televisions all over the place and a refrigerator only full of beer. I mean, let’s be honest—have you ever met a group of guys who lived together with a pristine, clean, smartly decorated home? If you have, please send photo proof. For me, I don’t even want to risk it.