I didn’t realize I had it all until my relationship spiraled out of control. I sabotaged my own happiness and made my boyfriend hate me in the process. I wish I could’ve salvaged things before it was too late, but instead, I messed up the best thing that ever happened to me. Learn from my mistakes by reading all the things I did to screw up my relationship.
1. I USED SEX AS A BARGAINING CHIP.One of the worst things I did was use sex as a tool to get what I wanted—and I did it over and over and over again. Instead of being intimate with him because I loved him and was attracted to him, I withheld the affection if I didn’t get what I wanted. Withholding sex as a form of punishment pushed him over the edge and I can’t even blame him.
2. I LET MYSELF GO.I became way too comfortable because I honestly thought that he and I would be together forever. I stopped caring about how I looked or what I wore. I figured he loved me whether I was all dolled up or if I looked like I’d just rolled out of bed. Now I know that keeping the excitement alive and looking my best is something that’s important no matter how long I was in a relationship. Soon enough, he stopped caring that I wasn’t giving him any sex because his attraction to me slowly started to fade.
3. I LET THE GREEN-EYED MONSTER GET THE BETTER OF ME.I was already a raging lunatic, but when I allowed my jealousy to get the better of me, it made things between us even worse. I knew deep down inside that he hadn’t cheated on me, but that didn’t stop me from accusing him of looking at other girls, talking to other girls, dreaming about other girls—you name it. Over time, he started to believe I didn’t trust him, and no relationship can survive without trust.