We all want to be desired, but not if that desire takes the place of being valued. Just because a guy wants you doesn’t mean that he actually respects and cares for you or that he will take care of and honor you. Too many of us these days confuse a man who desires us sexually as a man who wants to be with us when that’s often not the case.
1. A MAN THAT ONLY DESIRES YOU ACTS ON HIS IMPULSES. Desire is something you feel in a flash. Think about hunger pains. When you’re super hungry and haven’t eaten all morning, your desire to eat is an instinct that you feel and when you see food, you’ll eat it regardless of its nutritional value. Value, on the other hand, is calculated. If you seriously consider the value then you might not just eat the next Twizzler you see when you’re hungry. Instead, you’ll grab something healthier. My point is that desire isn’t always grounded in some higher reasoning. It’s a gut feeling, it’s what you want right then and there. It’s about immediate gratification.
2. A MAN THAT ONLY DESIRES YOU MAY DO SO TEMPORARILY. Desire may also be temporary—it can come and go. Sometimes it’s stronger than other times. On the other hand, value is consistent. It’s a part of what makes that thing or person so special. A guy that values you will you see as more than just a temporary fix for his sexual needs. If he values you, he’ll still enjoy being with you without sex being at the center of your interactions.
3. A MAN THAT ONLY DESIRES YOU MAY ONLY WANT THE IDEA OF YOU.Sometimes, desire for someone is based on the idea of them and who they might be rather than who they really are. A man that values you will seek out who you truly are deep down.